As a therapist, I have walked alongside many individuals during their therapy. One common thread that often emerges is the struggle with shame, a powerful emotion that can keep us trapped in self-judgment and self-criticism. Today, I want to explore the transformative power of self compassion and how it can help you break free from the ties of shame.

Shame is a complex emotion, one that thrives in the shadows of our vulnerabilities and past experiences. It tells us that we are inherently flawed, unworthy of love and acceptance. However, I want to assure you that you are not defined by your trauma. You are human, and it is in our shared humanity that we find the seeds of compassion that can lead to healing.

Self compassion is a gentle force that allows us to treat ourselves with kindness, understanding, without judgment. It is the recognition that imperfection is universal and that we all stumble along in life. As your therapist, I am here to guide you towards cultivating self-compassion, the foundation of healing from within.

To nurture compassion, we must first learn to recognise our self-critical thoughts and the shame they breed. Together, we will gently unpick the roots of shame and discover the patterns that keep it alive. In our sessions, we will explore moments of self-judgment and examine them with curiosity and gentleness. I will encourage you to practice self-compassion, treating yourself as you would a dear friend. Through this practice, you will start to see that compassion is not a weakness but a profound strength that allows for growth and transformation.

I understand that accepting self-compassion may not come easily at first. It can be challenging to be kind to ourselves when shame has become a familiar companion. But please remember, this process is not about perfection, it is about progress. Each step you take towards self-compassion, no matter how small, is a step towards healing.

As we work together, you may begin to notice subtle shifts in your relationship with shame. Instead of being overwhelmed by its grip, you may find moments of softness, understanding, and forgiveness. Compassion can become a guiding light, helping you navigate through the darkest corners of shame towards a place of self-acceptance.

Remember, you are not alone in this process. I am here to offer you unwavering support, compassion, and a safe space to explore your emotions without judgment. Healing from within is a difficult journey, but it can also be very freeing.

With self compassion as our compass, we will navigate this together. The beauty of  self compassion is that it allows you to embrace your authentic self and live a life grounded in self-love and acceptance.

If you have experienced trauma and are seeking support on your healing journey, I am here to help. At Rebecca Muller CBT, I specialise in trauma-informed therapy, and I am committed to providing a safe and empathetic space for your recovery. Please don't hesitate to reach out to us to schedule an appointment.